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This guy looks pretty good, huh? Probably handsome as hell. Worn out from too much party time the night before. Cause he's most likely always up for a good time. Cool?Yeah, right up until you find out that the reason he's always available to party is, he still lives with his parents, even though he is well into his thirties and only works part time.
And it's not just the guys people. I personally know of a 40 plus year old gal who's mother signs her apartment leases and pays her rent. Most likely she got tired of having her live in her house, blogging all day. Does this gal work? FUCK NO! She blogs.
Think these are the only two out there? Think again. Statistics show there is a plethora of not so young adults who would much rather allow their aging parents to pay their way than work.
Are parents morons these days? People, take your life back. Kick these assholes to the curb. They'll use you as long as you allow it. Say, NO! Are you going to continue to sacrifice what should be the happiest days of your life for a lazy, spoiled, brat of a kid? Who's not a kid at all? Pay their way till you die?
I totally understand that no matter how old your kid is, you still think of them as your kid. I get it. I do. But I also believe that parents have to stop this crap! NOW! If they can't survive on their own, there's always the good ole local shelter. Probably no internet access there but, what the hell?
My 80 year old father, who left me when I was 7, (and didn't show up again for 40 years when he thought he was dying) now has 4 kids by a woman my age. He supports 3 of them. The oldest is 30 and drinks from the time she wakes up till she goes to bed. She also has 2 kids he supports. He'll most likely die, still supporting them.
If you are in this situation, I urge you right now to say, ENOUGH! Get them the hell out of your house. Don't pay their apartment rent. Stop being a patsy. They're using you! You have a life too. Live it. Don't donate it to spoiled, loser, know it all, adults.
There. I'm done.
If you've read this and seen yourself on the loser side of the story, Fuck off!
If you've read it and seen yourself on the used side of the story, SMARTEN UP!
Survival of the fittest still applies. Like it or not. We work. We eat. That's how it rolls.
Why, thank you.
I'm in a snit, can you tell? LOL!
I get so weary of hearing these stories about people who are being used by kids not much younger than me!
We should all be like Momma birds. We do our kids no favors by paying their way. They learn nothing. And IMO, they suffer from not feeling the sense of satisfaction you feel when you've accomplished something of your very own.
I have a great deal of sympathy for offspring who can not fly the nest because they cannot afford to move out. Property prices over here are constantly rising, meaning kids can't afford a place of their own, bought or rented.
But 40 isn't a kid and sponging off your parents is not a career choice. Especially if you expect good ol' Ma and Pa to fund your habit.
Alex, generally the ones I'm talking about don't have the funds to move because they need their money for alcohol and good times. Sad. I would never use my mother like that. And more sad, one day their parents will be gone and it will be too late to be kind to them.
Seequin, what's SSI? LOL! Knowing you, I'm guessing you're no loser, kiddo.
Manny, you buy fingernails???? why can't ya just grow them out of your fingers?
At 8/22/2006 6:04 PM, 
GAB
My 20+ something daughter and her 3 boys live with us! She does work while I care for the boys. But rent here is outragous. Even her best girlfriend moved back in with her parents cause she couldnt make a go of it. They should move in together but her friend has no kids and likes her breakables! So here they are with mom/grandma dad/grandpa. yes she helps with the bills...just not as much as we like.
Indiansfan....say what??? LOL! You and Manny are both crazy too and also very grounded. How's that?
PS. 19 isn't so bad. She's still a pup. Don't kick yourself.
Roxi, I KNEW you'd get on me for using that phrase. LMAO. And no, baby, it is NOT the same at all. You're still a pup too. An adorable, bad swearing pup. I'm talking about career users. People in their 30's and 40's who don't work, don't offer to help around the house, don't do anything but drink, and party while their idiot parents pick up the tab.
At 8/22/2006 11:50 PM, Spoony Quine
` SSI = Social Supplementary Income. Then again, I'm already mooching off you, or at least I did when I lived in Ohio....
` Look at it this way; I don't wear cosmetics, nor do I pay people to cut my fingernails or hair; I also don't buy any articles of clothing unless something's falling apart by the seams and I can't repair it: Therefore... well, I save money, look average and feel really good.
` The main things I spend my money on are my rent, car, food, and occasionally, new books or maybe I'll rent a movie.
` Books are more fun, though. And they're all nonfiction, educational ones from The Scientific American Book Club.
` Oh, and my computer sometimes requires repairs.
` So, I don't think I'm really misusing youse guys' tax dollars that much.
Lori, I had an alcoholic uncle who mooched off of my grandmother until the day he died of liver disease. I "think" he was 48 when he died. When she needed something fixed, she'd call Bob and we would go over. bob would fix what ever needed fixing for her while "Timmy" laid there on the sofa watching. It was disgusting and got old real quick. He always had a can of 7 up in his hand that was ALWAYS filled with Vodka.
When you have a kid who refuses to accept they have a problem with drugs or alcohol, there's a good chance if you don't turn them out, they'll be with you till they day they or you die. I've known some parents who finally came to the point where they prayed for death to end the torture. Meanwhile their adult kids continued to party-down, oblivious of the torment they were creating.
Seequin, how old are you, kiddo? I have a feeling you're can't be very old. LOL! I've read your blog, and I see the things you're into. I have a feeling anything you need now will be repaid ten fold one day in the future. You are a bright young lady with a strong future, and a fun personality, IMO. And you seem to have your priorities in order. That alone is a big accomplishment in today's world.
I ought to send this to my inlaws. This chaffes my ass. It's "too expnesive to move out?" Get a roommate. That's what I did. Why does this generation of young people EXPECT that they should be able to move into something on their own that's equivalent to the home they left when they are FIRST starting out? Do they not realize it took their parents TIME to amass the things around them?
CABLE TELEVISION IS NOT A GOD GIVEN RIGHT!
You're supposed to get the dumpy apartment with just a mattress on the floor and the hand me down couch in your twenties. It's a right of passage.
My inlaws are young... they are very indulgent baby boomer parents. The shit that the three younger kids (all in their early twenties) get away with... the freaking MOOCHING... is shameful. It's really shameful. Except... they have no shame. And when the parents kick off I know one of my sisters in law will turn in this direction with a hand out... how surprised she's going to be when it gets slapped away. Without mercy.
Deb, THANK YOU!
That's exactly how I feel. When Bob and I first started out we had to cook on a hotplate we had a mattress on a frame that served as a bed and sofa and a tiny black and white tv. That's it.
He worked the night shift. I worked days and it was tough. But also some of the best and most satisfying times we had.
These days because parents "have" some funds stored up, they feel inclined to help out. Oddly, these folks who can't afford to live on their own have a nice little collection of "things". Computers, cell phones, stereo equipment. They always have the funds to go out and buy a few rounds at the local club and they always have nice clothes, shoes, jewerly, whatEVER.
Meanwhile, Mom and dad are still feeding them and keeping the roof over their heads. Out ya go, ya little mooch! And don't let the door hit you in the ass.
I for one am opting to use every single penny I have left on ....guess who? ME! That's right, I'm dyin poor. Every penny spent on fun fun fun.
You can bet when the money grubbers gather round for the reading of our wills we'll be somewhere, (undecided which way I'll end up given my current state of mind) but we'll be there laughin our asses off and saying things like, "Oh I'm so glad we spent all that money. Look at their faces!" ahhhhhhhhhhhhh ha ha ha ha ha!
Yeah, I know. Not so popular, am I? I'll cry about that while I'm shopping.
Here's a Wikipedia entry on this very phenomenon... about the BOOMERANG GENERATION...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boomerang_Generation
I love how people are trying to justify this set up... yeah, forging a "bond" in adulthood under the same roof will make it more likely for these kids to take care of their aging parents later. What bunk. Cultures where aging parents are taken care of (easter and hispanic) do so because advanced age is respected and wisdom is assumed. WE are the most age phobic culture around.
PLEASE... if this boomerang generation sticks around to take care of their aging parents, it will be to keep mooching off their bottom line. Bonds forged, my ass.
Thank you, Suze, Deb, and my pal, Tumble.
What bugs me here is, my sisters and I have all worked 2 and sometimes 3 jobs at a time when we needed to. When I first came back from screwing up my life, first thing I did was start working 6 days a week, 10 and 12 hours a day. The idea being, to put back some money and stay busy until my head was screwed on straight again. During that time, the squirrel and I bought our mother a new dining set, a bed, and then when squirrel totalled her car, crushing both knee caps I worked extra and helped her to pay her car off. (Manny was still in school then) Only after those things were done did I start saving for my own place. You "give" back to the people you love. It matters!
Course then Bob and I got together and things took a whole other course but the point is, we worked our asses off.
manny did the same when she was screwed over by her husband. She worked 3 jobs!
It's a matter of standing on your own 2 feet. Not so much for other people but for your own sense of pride and accomplishment. So one day you can look back and know that, you did what had to be done whent he chips were down. You HAVE to know you can rely on yourself in this world because there won't always be a mommy and a daddy to bail you out of the tight spots.
I'm coming down offa my snit. But I stand by my new resolve.
POWER TO THE PARENTS!!! We damn well earned it. If anybody's gonna be doing any partying around here, it's us! And long overdue if ya ask me.
PS. Tumble, ya gotta keep the 12 year old. LOL! Who's gonna keep you in line if you don't?
Honestly, I don't even think there's anything wrong with kids having to come back home in their twenties long as their trying to pull it all together. It's when they get into their 30s and 40s that I start to get ticked.
Did I tell you all about the lady i knew here who while she was dying her kids (40s, 50s) were busy checking out cruises, condos, and whatever else they were going to do with her inheritance?
They flocked around her like buzzards, just waiting. Please!
I've been seeing and hearing lots of this crap over the past 3 months, can ya tell? It has me scratching my head and wondering if anybody really feels anything anymore. I know it is like that with everybody. But lately, there sure has been an abundance of "bad".
Check your shoes before you leave.
Momma birds push their tiny little baby birds OUT OF THE NEST, and it's for a reason.
Good rant Crabby.